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Friday, July 9, 2010

Counseling part 2

Weeelllll - it has been several weeks and 2 more counseling visits since I last posted. All I can say is that if you are thinking counseling might be helpful - then go and commit to going for at least a month. These last 2 visits have really opened my eyes and been totally enlightening to some of the things going on with miss Alem. In fact both times our counselor has been able to get to the heart of our struggles in just a few minutes and give me pratical tips for overcoming and moving forward. The really hard part is that she has some seriously deep control issues and it is going to be challenging to overcome them. The other thing that was hard to hear is that she really isn't able to relate to people - she simply doesn't have the skills. Now those are things she can learn, and it explains why she can't really play with other kids yet - but it was hard for her to hear that she wasn't the same as the other kids in the neighborhood - but it motivates her to change and that is good.


Hang on for what promises to be a bumpy ride - we currently have to take all control away from her... ugh, not totally sure what that is going to look like, but I know she isn't going to like it....

4 comments:

Shannon- said...

WOW! That does sound intense! I can imagine the long term benefits, but that calls for some serious parenting.. at least it would in this house, even for my 3 year old!! Good luck. I'll be praying for you all!

Andrea H. said...

Ugh, that's a lot to swallow especially that she can't relate to people. I bet that was hard for her to hear. Know that I am praying and am here for you if you need me. I love the new pictures. It's really funny how Alem is right by you just like you always explain it. Gosh my head goes up to you because that alone takes a lot to have her on you 24/7. But I know in the end it all will work out.

M and M said...

keep on doing your good work, and the delights will follow...how much fun is it going to be to really witness the change (after the work, of course). I'll be cheering for you, my friend!

Mom to 9 Blessings! said...

Bonnie - praying for you! What a journey and He will BE FAITHFUL to complete the good work He has begun!

Blessings,
Jill